232 - When You Feel Invisible in Dating
About this episode
The episode discusses the feelings of invisibility in dating, particularly for those experiencing sexual ableism, and emphasizes recognizing one's own value and setting boundaries in relationships.
Being overlooked in dating—especially when experiencing sexual ableism—hurts deeply. Your pain is valid. But understand this: being overlooked reflects others' limited perspectives and society's narrow view of desirability, not your actual worth. You're not the problem; their inability to see beyond surface judgments is. Recognize Your Own Value First Stop questioning if you're "dateable enough." Instead, create a concrete list of twenty-five attractive qualities: your humor, resilience, compassion, intelligence, unique perspectives, and strengths developed through life experience. Choose your top five and read them daily for thirty days. This rewires your brain to recognize your value first, which fundamentally changes how you show up and how others perceive you. Your Disability Adds to Your Value Reject the narrative that your disability is something to overcome. The determination, empathy, problem-solving skills, and depth of character that come from navigating the world with a disability are genuine assets. You're whole and complete as you are—not broken. The right partner will see your disability not as a deficit but as one aspect of the complex, valuable person you are. Set…
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