244 - Decide When You Need an Answer

244 - Decide When You Need an Answer

From Dating, Relationships, and Disability by Kathy O'Connell

May 26, 2026 · 14 min

About this episode

The episode discusses the importance of making decisions in dating and life, particularly when faced with overwhelming options.

This is a strategy that can apply to nearly everything in life, not just dating. But of course, we’re going to talk about it as it relates to dating. When you’re overwhelmed and maybe unsure what the answer is to a dilemma, many times you don’t need to wait, search, or find an answer. Often you just need to make a decision. Miserable Maybes Have you ever heard of the “miserable maybes”? It’s when you’re stuck in the loop of waiting for the right possibility to drop. The problem is there are various possibilities and you begin thinking, “Well, maybe if this happens, I will…” Then a short time later, you think of another possibility and you say, “No, maybe I should do…” You’re in the miserable maybes of possibilities and it doesn’t feel good.  It feels different from having possibilities you can consciously choose from, say having two people who want to date you and picking the one you like better. Miserable maybes happen when you’re not choosing any option and waiting to see what happens but agonizing over it in the meantime. Make. A. Decision. How This Looks You’ll feel much better. So how does this look in the dating world?  You can make decisions like this: Pick 1-3…

People in this episode

Host: Kathy O'Connell

Topics covered

  • decision making
  • dating strategies
  • overcoming indecision
  • miserable maybes
  • self-improvement

Keywords

  • decision making
  • dating
  • miserable maybes
  • indecision
  • self-improvement

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