About this episode

Matt LeBris and Annalie Howling discuss healing from shame and the impact of trauma on identity and self-worth.

In this episode of The Decoding Success Podcast , Matt sits down with Annalie Howling for a powerful conversation about healing shame, overcoming limiting beliefs, burnout, identity, self-worth, and what it truly means to become yourself again. Annalie opens up about the difference between who we truly are versus who we become in order to survive. Together, Matt and Annalie explore how childhood experiences, trauma, toxic relationships, societal expectations, and internalized shame quietly shape our identities, relationships, ambitions, and even our success. This episode dives deep into the hidden connection between high achievement and emotional pain, why so many successful people secretly feel unworthy, and how unresolved shame can fuel perfectionism, people-pleasing, anxiety, burnout, and self-sabotage. Annalie shares deeply personal stories about surviving violence, navigating divorce, rebuilding her life, and learning how to stop living according to "shoulds" and start living according to what she truly wants. She also explains why shame is often felt in the body long before it becomes conscious thought — and why healing begins by reconnecting with yourself rather than…

People in this episode

Host: Matt LeBris

Guest: Annalie Howling

Topics covered

• healing shame
• overcoming limiting beliefs
• identity
• self-worth
• emotional pain
• burnout
• self-sabotage

Keywords

• shame
• identity
• burnout
• self-worth
• emotional pain
• perfectionism
• toxic relationships
• societal expectations

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