DL Ep.30: The Dharma of Relationships with Devon + Nico Hase

About this episode

This episode explores how Buddhist practices can enhance relationships and personal growth through discussions with Devin and Nico Hase.

Relationships can be one of the most powerful parts of the spiritual path because they reveal the parts of ourselves we cannot easily see alone. In this episode of Dharma Lab , Cortland Dahl and Richie Davidson are joined by meditation teachers and authors Devin and Nico Hase to explore how Buddhist practice can help us navigate love, conflict, vulnerability, appreciation, and repair. Drawing on their new book, This Messy, Gorgeous Love , they reflect on why relationships are inherently challenging, how they become mirrors for growth, and how simple practices like awareness, check-ins, and appreciation can turn partnership into a path of awakening. Podcast Chapter List 0:00 Relationships are rough: using partnership as a spiritual path1:11 Introducing Devin and Nico Hase and This Messy, Gorgeous Love 5:36 What can a monastic tradition teach us about relationships?7:05 Devin on translating Buddhist teachings into modern lay life9:53 Nico on bringing Dharma into the gritty reality of family and partnership11:29 Richie on family, feedback, and why Dharma must matter in real life15:23 Retreat, relationship, and why we can’t hide from ourselves18:04 Partners as teachers: what…

People in this episode

Hosts: Cortland Dahl, Richie Davidson

Guests: Devin Hase, Nico Hase

Topics covered

• relationships
• Buddhist practice
• spiritual growth
• conflict resolution
• vulnerability
• intimacy

Keywords

• relationships
• Buddhism
• spiritual path
• conflict
• vulnerability
• intimacy
• awareness
• partnership

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: This Messy, Gorgeous Love

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