Why She Shuts Down Around You (And What You're Doing to Cause It) - Infinite Devotion Podcast #134

About this episode

This episode discusses how men's emotional responses can impact their partners' feelings and openness in relationships.

Why She Shuts Down Around You (And What You're Doing to Cause It)   She used to bring you everything. Now she barely brings you anything. And you can feel it, even if you can't name what changed.   In this episode, Andrew makes a case that most men aren't going to want to hear: the way she's showing up emotionally right now is largely a response to how safe you've made it for her to feel around you.   Not because you're a bad person. Because you were never taught that emotions make sense, and so you've been, mostly unconsciously, telling her that only some of hers are acceptable to you. And she learned.   What's covered: Why every emotion she feels is a 100% accurate response to something, and why the flaw is in your timeline, not in her feelings How trying to shut down the emotions you don't like also kills the desire, warmth, and openness you actually want from her The way men unconsciously teach the women they love to stop feeling openly, and what that costs both of them Where emotional repression comes from, and why it almost certainly started long before your relationship did What happens to her, to you, and to the desire between you when you start…

People in this episode

Host: Andrew

Topics covered

• emotional safety
• relationship dynamics
• emotional repression
• men's emotional responses
• intimacy
• communication

Keywords

• emotions
• relationship
• safety
• intimacy
• communication
• emotional repression
• desire

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