Before You Call It Defiance, Ask These 5 Questions | Regulation First Parenting® | E440
About this episode
Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge discusses five questions to consider before labeling a child's behavior as defiance, emphasizing the importance of understanding underlying dysregulation.
Before calling your child defiant, pause and look deeper. These 5 questions to ask before you call it defiance can reveal whether behavior is driven by dysregulation. Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge teaches Regulation First Parenting™ to help families understand and regulate the brain. Your child refuses homework, melts down during transitions, or suddenly explodes—and you’re left wondering, “Are they being defiant, or is something else going on?” Before you discipline, pause and ask these 5 questions to ask before you call it defiance . They can help you see whether your child is saying, “I won’t” or “I can’t.” What happened right before my child’s behavior? Behavior doesn’t happen in isolation. Before assuming defiance, look for the trigger that happened immediately before the behavior. Was your child tired, hungry, overstimulated, coming home from school, asked to stop a preferred activity, or told to get off a device? These moments can reveal whether your child’s nervous system is overloaded. Look for triggers and patterns. Notice whether your child is under- or overstimulated. Ask, “What happened right before this?” Parent example: Your child refuses to do homework every day after…
People in this episode
Host: Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge
Topics covered
- defiance
- dysregulation
- parenting
- behavior
- Regulation First Parenting
Keywords
- defiance
- dysregulation
- parenting questions
- child behavior
- Regulation First Parenting
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