The Hidden Reason You Can't Stop Overthinking, People-Pleasing And Overworking with Dr Nicole LePera #664

About this episode

Dr Rangan Chatterjee discusses with Dr Nicole LePera the impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior and emotional responses.

Why do we sometimes react in ways we don’t mean to? Why does criticism land so heavily when others can brush it off? And why, even when life looks good from the outside, do we feel stuck on the inside? This week’s guest offers a new perspective on all this – and an optimistic way forward. With nearly 10 million followers on Instagram as The Holistic Psychologist, Dr Nicole LePera has helped countless people see their lifelong patterns through a helpful new lens. She joins me to discuss her fantastic book, Reparenting the Inner Child: The New Science of Our Oldest Wounds and How to Heal Them. At the heart of our conversation is an important idea: we don’t see the world as it is, we see it through the state of our nervous system. Nicole highlights the signs that yours may be calling the shots, such as restlessness, numbness, disproportionate reactions and the constant need to be busy. And she explains how those patterns trace back to a part of us shaped long before we had the language for it: our inner child. We explore how childhood adaptations follow us into adulthood, often without us realising, shaping our relationships, our careers, our sensitivity to criticism, and our…

People in this episode

Host: Dr Rangan Chatterjee

Guest: Dr Nicole LePera

Topics covered

• overthinking
• people-pleasing
• overworking
• inner child
• nervous system
• childhood adaptations

Keywords

• overthinking
• people-pleasing
• inner child
• nervous system
• self-worth
• criticism
• childhood adaptations

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Reparenting the Inner Child: The New Science of Our Oldest Wounds and How to Heal Them

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