Tenderoni Hotline #37: Why You Keep Wanting Closure from Your Ex + Why You Constantly Ask for Reassurance in Your Relationship

Tenderoni Hotline #37: Why You Keep Wanting Closure from Your Ex + Why You Constantly Ask for Reassurance in Your Relationship

From Feminist Wellness by Béa Victoria Albina

June 30, 2026 · 15 min

About this episode

The episode explores the reasons behind the desire for closure from an ex and the need for reassurance in relationships, offering insights and tools for emotional healing.

Tenderoni Hotline #37: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of The Feminist Wellness Podcast, where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and reclaiming your self-trust. In today’s episode, we’re diving into two deeply relatable questions that so many of us carry quietly. First, what’s really going on when you can’t stop thinking about your ex and keep reaching for “closure,” even though you know they won’t give you what you need? We’ll explore why this craving is less about them and more about your nervous system’s longing for completion, and how to create that sense of closure from within. Then we turn toward the ache of constantly seeking reassurance, even in a loving, safe relationship. If you find yourself asking “Are we okay?” again and again, this part is for you. We’ll unpack the roots of that pattern and talk about how to gently retrain your nervous system to trust safety, love, and steadiness without outsourcing your emotional security. You’ll walk away with nervous system-informed tools, a whole lot of compassion, and a deeper understanding of why your brain and body respond the way…

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