About this episode

This episode discusses the pitfalls of self-monitoring during the healing process in IVF and infertility, emphasizing the importance of awareness without judgment.

“Awareness is not the same as self-monitoring.” Topics Discussed How awareness quietly turns into pressure and self-monitoring The deeply ingrained pattern of being hypercritical with yourself Why many emotional patterns are learned, not who you actually are The difference between observing and trying to fix yourself The concept of “the observer observing the observer” How judgment, shame, and blame activate the nervous system Why clean awareness creates regulation and softness in the body Letting go of the need to improve every moment you notice The internal stories that keep you stuck in “this is just who I am” Moving into a more neutral, graceful relationship with yourself Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… And this week… we go a layer deeper. Because a lot of you have done the work. You’ve slowed down. You’ve started noticing your patterns. You’re becoming aware. And instead of that bringing relief… it’s quietly turned into another thing you’re trying to get right. Watching yourself. Correcting yourself. Wondering if you’re doing it “well enough.” And I get it. I’ve lived that. But this is where things can get a…

People in this episode

Host: Monica Cox

Topics covered

• fertility burnout
• self-monitoring
• emotional patterns
• awareness
• judgment
• nervous system regulation
• self-acceptance

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