Finding Fertility

“There is nothing wrong with you for holding on so tightly. For many women, control once meant survival.” Topics Discussed How control quietly disguises itself as safety The nervous system cost of gripping, fixing, and managing Why surrender often feels like loss, not relief Fear patterns hiding underneath overdoing and overanalyzing The difference between effort and force How honesty creates more space than pushing ever could “Surrender is not the absence of action. It is the absence of force.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode is an honest pause. A breath. A moment to look at how tightly you might be holding your life together and why. Not from judgment. Not from fixing. Just from awareness. Because control can feel responsible, productive, and necessary. Until it quietly turns into exhaustion. I share a very real chapter of my own fertility journey where surrender was not chosen. It was forced. No job. No distractions. No fixing. Just waiting. And while it did not magically guarantee an outcome, it changed how my body experienced life. It showed me how much effort I had been carrying without realizing it. This week is not about letting go of everything. It is about noticing where surrender feels dangerous. Where ease feels irresponsible. Where your body is bracing instead of breathing. And what might happen if you stopped fighting long enough to feel what is actually there. Timestamps 00:00Welcome and setting the tone for noticing control 01:11How control disguises itself as safety 02:42Why fear-based effort works against the body 03:35A personal story of being forced into surrender 07:14Where gripping shows up in everyday life 08:42Surrender as honesty, not collapse Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Why%20Surrender%20Feels%20So%20Threatening%20When%20You%20Want%20a%20Baby%20During%20Infertility%20IVF Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

“You don’t need a new mindset. You need to notice the place you live inside.” Topics Discussed Fertility burnout as a nervous system pattern, not a personal failure How control hides inside efficiency, productivity, and being on top of things Why subconscious healing happens in micro moments, not massive breakthroughs The difference between fixing yourself and becoming aware of how you live Fertility symptoms as information, not punishment What motherhood reveals when old patterns go unchecked “It’s not the big dramatic moments that shape your nervous system. It’s the ordinary ones.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode is an invitation to slow down without forcing yourself to slow down. To notice without fixing. To see how much of your fertility journey is being run on autopilot while you are just trying to survive another day of doing all the right things. If you have ever felt like you need more information, more discipline, more control, this conversation might gently irritate you in the best way. Because the truth is, transformation does not come from tackling the big dramatic moments. It comes from noticing how you move through your day while making breakfast, checking your phone, planning what comes next. This episode is about awareness, not effort. About where your nervous system actually lives. And why fertility healing often asks us to clean up the small invisible patterns before life asks us to mother through them. There is something quietly powerful waiting for you in the ordinary moments you usually rush past. “Presence does not require effort. It requires permission.” Timestamps 01:07Why slowing down feels unbearable when control patterns are active 02:35How control hides in ordinary moments, not big decisions 03:35Why awareness changes reality more than overdoing ever could 05:55You don’t need a new mindset, you need to notice where you live 08:22What happens when you stop fixing, pushing, and managing Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/The%20Subconscious%20Patterns%20Running%20Your%20Fertility%20Journey%20on%20Autopilot Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

“You do not need to control your way into safety. You need to notice where control is running the show.” Topics Discussed Fertility burnout and why over-efforting feels safe but keeps you stuck IVF trauma and how control becomes a subconscious coping strategy The illusion of control as protection for the nervous system Subconscious healing through awareness, not fixing Why frequency behind action matters more than the action itself Gut health, mindset, emotional healing, and nervous system regulation as lived experiences Slowing down without losing momentum or responsibility Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be. This episode kicks off a gentle but powerful series that is not about learning more or doing more. It is about noticing what is already happening beneath the surface. Especially the places where control has quietly become your safety net. If you are navigating fertility burnout, IVF trauma, or that constant feeling of having to stay on top of everything just to survive, this conversation is for you. We talk about the mundane moments no one glamorizes. Your to do list. The way you plan your day. The subtle micromanaging that feels responsible but actually keeps your nervous system on edge. I am not here to tell you to stop controlling your life. I am here to help you see where control is driving, and where it might be costing you more than it gives. This is not about judgment or immediate change. It is about radical honesty, awareness, and compassion. The kind that opens the door to real subconscious healing. By the end of this episode, you may realize that the slow, seemingly pointless noticing is exactly where the deepest shifts in fertility, mindset, emotional healing, and frequency actually begin. And next week, we go even deeper into why control feels safe, and how to gently unwind it. “If slowing down feels pointless, that is usually where the real work is.” Timestamps 01:05: Week one begins, why the slow, mundane work is where true shifts happen 02:03: The fertility to do list and how control hides in plain sight 02:57: Control, obligation, and asking whether it actually lights you up 03:54: Frequency behind action, inspired movement versus pushing from fear 05:47: Why the old fast ways did not work, and the invitation to slow down with grace Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-one-infertility-ivf-burnout-control-the-slow-shifts-that-actually-change-everything Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

"It wasn’t until after I got pregnant that I realized my gut health and so many other things had contributed to my miscarriages. My doctor said, 'It just happens.' But I knew there had to be a reason." Topics Discussed Fertility and gut health: How inflammation, processed foods, and nutrient absorption affect conception IVF or medical trauma: The frustration of being told “it just happens” after miscarriage Emotional and mindset healing: Turning discipline into self-love and rebuilding trust in the body Subconscious blocks and energy work: Letting go of instant gratification to create true healing Frequency, coherence, embodiment, and cellular health: How nourishment and awareness elevate fertility "Pregnancy isn’t a sign of health, it’s a sign of reproduction—and those are not the same thing." Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be. In this episode, I sit down with journalist-turned-health-podcaster Natalie Tisdale, whose fertility journey led her deep into the world of gut health, self-discipline, and true nourishment. What began as frustration after repeated miscarriages became a quest for understanding what her body was actually trying to say. Spoiler alert: it wasn’t about age, it was about inflammation, imbalance, and intuition. We talk about the myth of “bad luck” and how the body always whispers before it screams. Natalie shares how ditching processed foods, rebuilding her microbiome, and reconnecting to her body’s rhythm changed everything—from her energy to her fertility outcomes. It’s not about a long list of supplements or complicated biohacks, it’s about simple, nourishing choices made with love and awareness. You’ll laugh, nod, and probably want to grab a cup of bone broth halfway through this one. We also dive into how discipline becomes an act of self-love, why antibiotics wreck more than your gut, and how trusting your inner guidance can transform your fertility journey. The message is clear: healing your gut isn’t just about digestion, it’s about coherence, connection, and creation. "Discipline isn’t punishment—it’s self-love in action." Timestamps00:00 – Why your frequency matters more than your protocol01:31 – Natalie’s shift from news anchor to health storyteller03:20 – The real reason behind her miscarriages and gut health connection06:24 – The perimeter-of-the-grocery-store rule that changed everything09:10 – Why self-discipline is the new self-care14:12 – How to simplify gut healing and stop the overwhelm18:46 – Organ meats, bone broth, and forgotten fertility foods22:35 – Small daily habits that reset your gut and your energy "When you feel good from the good things, you stop craving the bad things—physically and emotionally." Full Transcript Over on the Blog: Gut First, Heart Open: Healing Fertility Burnout with Simple Food, Nervous System Care & Soul-Level Trust Natalie Tisdale: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Healing%20Fertility%20Burnout%20with%20Simple%20Food%20Nervous%20System%20Care%20Soul-Level%20Trust%20Natalie%20Tisdale Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session: Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣] Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I hav