
IVF Trauma, Stillness, and the Body’s Need to Pause During Infertility :: Week 9
From Finding Fertility by Monica Cox
February 27, 2026 · 8 min
About this episode
This episode explores the importance of stillness during infertility and how it can lead to deeper self-awareness.
“Stillness removes the buffer. When you stop moving, sensation rises and that can feel uncomfortable AF.” Topics Discussed Why overdoing is often about avoiding stillness, not productivity How autopilot patterns keep the nervous system in motion The link between safety, control, and fertility burnout Why boredom and pauses support creativity and regulation Observing impulses without fixing, forcing, or judging Learning to choose stillness rather than demand it “The body doesn’t avoid stillness without a reason. That reaction is information.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode is for the woman who knows she is tired, but cannot quite slow down. The one who has done all the things. The journals. The planning. The perfect routines. And yet something still feels loud inside. We talk about why stillness can feel unsafe. Not because anything is wrong with you, but because stillness removes distraction. It asks you to be with yourself without a role, without momentum, without identity. And for many women on the fertility journey, that is where the anxiety lives. This week is not about forcing rest or becoming some…
People in this episode
Host: Monica
Topics covered
- IVF Trauma
- Stillness
- Body’s Need to Pause
- Fertility Burnout
- Creativity and Regulation
- Observing Impulses
Keywords
- infertility
- nervous system
- safety
- control
- anxiety
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