What Happens After You Stop Trying So Hard to Conceive During IVF & Infertility

What Happens After You Stop Trying So Hard to Conceive During IVF & Infertility

From Finding Fertility by Monica Cox

May 22, 2026 · 9 min

About this episode

This episode explores the transition from striving for control in the conception process to embracing uncertainty and steadiness.

What This Episode Moves Through • the moment when control starts to loosen its grip without force• how overdoing slowly fades when you stop feeding it attention• the difference between doing the work & becoming the work• why nothing needing to be fixed can feel uncomfortable at first• the quiet shift from urgency into steadiness• what it feels like to live without bracing for what’s next There was a point where pushing just… stopped working. Not in a dramatic way. Not in a breakdown. Just a quiet realization that doing more wasn’t creating more. That the effort, the planning, the constant adjusting… wasn’t landing the way it used to. And for a moment, that felt like something was wrong. This episode sits inside that space. Not the part where everything clicks into place, but the part where the noise settles & you’re left standing in something unfamiliar. Something quieter. Something that doesn’t need to prove itself. It’s less about what to do next& more about what happens when there is no next step waiting. Timestamps 01:03 When there is no next step02:03 Watching control soften over time03:01 Creating from a different place03:57 Expanding beyond just getting…

People in this episode

Host: Monica Cox

Topics covered

  • IVF
  • infertility
  • letting go
  • control
  • uncertainty
  • personal growth

Keywords

  • conceive
  • IVF
  • infertility
  • control
  • uncertainty
  • personal growth
  • letting go

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