About this episode

Lora Cheadle and Todd Creager discuss the roots of infidelity and the healing process after betrayal trauma.

Infidelity doesn’t happen in a vacuum. And healing after betrayal isn’t just about “getting over it” or learning to trust again. In this deeply compassionate and eye-opening conversation, Lora sits down with marriage and sex therapist Todd Creager to explore the real roots of infidelity, betrayal trauma, emotional safety, and lasting healing. Together, they unpack how childhood wounds, attachment injuries, shame, hypervigilance, and nervous system survival patterns shape both betrayal and recovery. You’ll also learn how EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and Internal Family Systems (IFS) can help both betrayed partners and betrayers process trauma safely, understand their protective patterns, and move toward genuine healing and connection. This episode is not about excusing betrayal. It’s about understanding it deeply enough to heal. Whether you stay or leave, this conversation will help you stop personalizing the betrayal, understand your own patterns more compassionately, and move toward clarity, safety, and self-trust. Top 3 Takeaways Infidelity is often connected to unresolved trauma, attachment wounds, and protective survival patterns that began long before…

People in this episode

Host: Lora Cheadle

Guest: Todd Creager

Topics covered

• betrayal trauma
• infidelity
• emotional safety
• healing
• childhood wounds
• attachment injuries
• EMDR
• IFS

Keywords

• infidelity
• betrayal trauma
• EMDR
• IFS
• emotional safety
• healing
• attachment wounds
• nervous system

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