What Are You Under the Influence Of? How Fear, Trauma & Other People's Opinions Keep You Stuck After Betrayal

About this episode

Lora Cheadle discusses how betrayal trauma affects decision-making and the importance of self-trust in the healing process.

After betrayal, everyone seems to have advice. Leave.Stay.Fight for your marriage.Run.Forgive.Never trust again. But when your nervous system is overwhelmed, it's easy to absorb other people's certainty instead of listening to your own truth. In this episode, Lora explores how betrayal trauma increases suggestibility, why fear spreads so quickly, and how to reclaim your ability to think clearly, trust yourself, and make decisions from wisdom rather than panic. Drawing from her experience as an attorney, clinical hypnotherapist, and betrayal recovery coach, Lora explains why knowledge reduces fear, how hypnosis can help break the trance of trauma, and why discernment—not certainty—is the real path to healing. If you've ever wondered whether you're making decisions based on your own truth or someone else's story, this episode is for you. Top 3 Takeaways Betrayal Trauma Makes You More Suggestible. When your nervous system is overwhelmed, your brain naturally seeks certainty. That's why it's easy to absorb other people's opinions, fears, and experiences instead of trusting yourself. Discernment Is Different Than Fear. Fear demands immediate answers. Discernment allows reality to…

People in this episode

Host: Lora Cheadle

Topics covered

• betrayal trauma
• fear
• decision making
• self-trust
• hypnosis
• discernment
• healing

Keywords

• betrayal
• trauma
• suggestibility
• fear
• discernment
• hypnosis
• healing
• self-trust
• decision making

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