Invisible Grief: How Hidden Loss Holds You Back (and how to release it) | Dr. Lucy Hone

Invisible Grief: How Hidden Loss Holds You Back (and how to release it) | Dr. Lucy Hone

May 21, 2026 · 52 min

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Dr. Lucy Hone discusses the concept of invisible grief and how it affects our lives, offering insights from her research and personal experience.

There is a gap between where your life is and where you thought it would be. That gap has a name. It is grief. A kind of hidden, invisible grief. And most of us are walking around carrying it without ever calling it that, because we have been taught that grief belongs only to those who have lost someone to death. The rest of us are supposed to just get on with it. Dr. Lucy Hone is an adjunct senior fellow at the University of Canterbury, a leading resilience researcher, and one of the world's most trusted voices on loss and grief. Her TED talk on resilience has been viewed more than nine million times. She is also a mother who lost her 12-year-old daughter, Abi, in a car accident in 2014, and who has spent the decade since weaving her scientific training and her lived experience into tools that actually work. Her new book is How Will I Ever Get Through This? In this conversation, we go to the places most conversations about grief are afraid to go. What you will explore: Why grief is not an emotion but a full-body experience that explains the exhaustion, brain fog, and 3 am waking you may have been blaming on other things What "living losses" are, the griefs that come without a…

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