Dating in Midlife…Oh My! | Bela Gandhi

About this episode

Bela Gandhi discusses the complexities of dating in midlife and offers insights on finding lasting relationships.

Here is something most of us have never been told: falling in love was never supposed to be easy, and the fact that it hasn't been isn't a character flaw. It's a design problem. Your biology may be working against you. Your cultural programming works against you. But, more than anything, the list you've been carrying around of what you want in a partner is almost certainly pointing you in the wrong direction. Bela Gandhi is a dating coach and the founder of Smart Dating Academy, where she has helped thousands of people find lasting relationships. She was a longtime dating expert on Good Morning America and the Steve Harvey Show and built her methodology after realizing that love, like anything else worth doing, benefits from a system. What you'll explore in this conversation: Why 74% of third marriages end in divorce, and what that tells us about how most people approach finding a partner The "elevator people" exercise that reveals what you actually need in a relationship, and why it almost never matches your dream list How biology, attachment patterns, and cultural messaging conspire to make us fall for the wrong people, again and again What highly accomplished, independent…

People in this episode

Host: Jonathan Fields

Guest: Bela Gandhi

Topics covered

• dating
• midlife
• relationships
• self-improvement
• love
• biology
• cultural messaging

Keywords

• dating in midlife
• lasting relationships
• attachment patterns
• cultural programming
• elevator people exercise
• independent women
• attraction

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Smart Dating Academy, Good Morning America, Steve Harvey Show

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