Why You Can't Get Your Sh*t Together (And It's Not Your Fault)

About this episode

In this episode, licensed therapist Melody Murray discusses the reasons women feel stuck and offers practical ways to regulate their nervous systems.

You've got the list. You know what needs to get done. And somehow another week goes by. This isn't a laziness problem. According to licensed therapist Melody Murray, it's a nervous system problem—and there's a very specific reason so many women feel stuck, scattered, and perpetually behind right now. Melody Murray is an LMFT, child mental health specialist, former reality TV producer, and author of Mourning the Living . She's been on The Today Show, The Doctors, and featured in the New York Times, Washington Post, Newsweek, and more. She has also nearly died twice in four weeks, which, as you'll hear, changed everything about how she thinks about self-dismissal. In this episode: Why chaos feels oddly familiar (and what that actually means) How your coping mechanisms are still running on a five-year-old's operating system The social media check nobody talks about Why protecting your peace is now an act of rebellion Practical ways to regulate your nervous system today, not eventually Plus: the closet you don't actually care about, the pervy uncle who started it all, and why self-care has nothing to do with a manicure. Free workshop: Handle Your Sh*t — live April 18th. Grab your…

People in this episode

Host: Jackie MacDougall

Guest: Melody Murray

Topics covered

• nervous system
• self-care
• mental health
• coping mechanisms
• women's issues

Keywords

• nervous system
• self-care
• mental health
• women
• coping mechanisms
• chaos
• regulation

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Mourning the Living

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