About this episode

Sara Jane Ho discusses the importance of social fluency and its impact on life and success.

Sara Jane Ho is a Harvard Business School graduate, Netflix star, and the founder of Institute Sarita — China's first high-end finishing school — who spent 12 years teaching social intelligence to some of the most powerful people in Asia before pivoting to LA to launch a TCM-based wellness brand and host the viral podcast Hot Water. She is the author of the bestselling etiquette book Mind Your Manners and has been named Forbes' Women to Watch in Asia and one of BBC's 100 Women.In this episode, we discuss:0:00 Introduction2:36 Why Neglecting Social Fluency Is Literally Shortening Your Lifespan3:50 What Social Fluency Actually Means — and Why It Has Nothing to Do With Being Polite5:23 How to Develop Heightened Self-Awareness If Nobody Ever Taught You How10:32 How Sara Jane Ho Went From Harvard to Beijing With Broken Mandarin and Built China's First Finishing School15:29 What High-Status People Do Differently Once They're Inside the Room19:42 Reading the Air: How to Scan a Room's Energy in the First 30 Seconds23:30) How to Use Your Central Nervous System to Read People More Accurately Than Your Brain28:20 Carl Jung Said You Only Really Start Living at 40 — Here's What That…

People in this episode

Host: Sean Kim

Guest: Sara Jane Ho

Topics covered

• social intelligence
• etiquette
• self-awareness
• cultural differences
• communication skills
• wellness

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Harvard Business School, Institute Sarita, Netflix, Forbes, BBC

Books & works: Mind Your Manners

Places: China, LA, Asia

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