The High Cost of White-Knuckling ADHD with Katy Weber

About this episode

Katy Weber discusses the challenges of late ADHD diagnosis and the impact of systemic stressors on neurodivergent women.

Today I'm talking with Katy Weber, a certified ADHD coach and the creator of the top-rated Women & ADHD podcast. After a career in journalism and wellness, Katy was diagnosed with ADHD at 45. Following that diagnosis, she has built a platform helping neurodivergent women move past the shame of late diagnosis and into a place of radical self-acceptance. In our conversation, we talk about the systemic stressors that often trigger a late-life ADHD "breaking point," particularly for women navigating career, parenting, and hormonal shifts. We get into the mechanics of masking, why we often use anxiety and shame as our primary motivators, and the overlap between neurodivergence and physical health, looking at how chronic stress manifests in our bodies. If you'd life to follow along on the show notes page you can find that at HackingYourADHD.com/288 YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/y835cnrk Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/HackingYourADHD This Episode's Top Tips Recognize that "having it all together" on the outside often comes at a high cost. When people ask, "How do you do it all?" the answer is usually through extreme masking and "white-knuckling," which leads directly to burnout and…

People in this episode

Host: William Curb

Guest: Katy Weber

Topics covered

• ADHD
• neurodivergence
• mental health
• self-acceptance
• anxiety
• masking
• women's issues

Keywords

• ADHD
• white-knuckling
• burnout
• chronic anxiety
• self-acceptance
• masking
• neurodivergent women

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Women & ADHD, Hacking Your ADHD

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