Avoidant Attachment: Why You Sabotage Every Relationship You Want
About this episode
Kenny Weiss discusses avoidant attachment and its impact on relationships, offering insights and healing steps for those affected.
Avoidant attachment is not coldness, and it is not emotional unavailability, it is emotional unprotection. If you keep pushing away the people you most want to keep, this video shows you why it happens and the concrete steps to start healing it. Relationship and childhood trauma recovery specialist Kenny Weiss breaks down avoidant attachment as a survival pattern built in childhood, not a personality flaw. You will learn why you go cold when closeness gets real, why you can feel emotionally unavailable to the one person who matters most, and what a love avoidant, codependent person actually needs to do to heal. It speaks to the shutdown or avoidant partner, and to the over giver exhausted from loving one. Kenny teaches that the love avoidant is the falsely empowered end of the codependence spectrum, so the way out is not more independence but interdependence. He walks through the five core symptoms of codependence first named by Pia Mellody and gives one concrete healing step for each. He ties the pattern to the Worst Day Cycle™, the unconscious loop of trauma, fear, shame, and denial that keeps the avoidant stuck. Avoidant attachment is not emotional unavailability, it is…
People in this episode
Host: Kenny Weiss
Topics covered
- avoidant attachment
- relationship dynamics
- childhood trauma
- codependence
- emotional healing
Keywords
- avoidant attachment
- emotional unavailability
- relationship trauma
- codependency
- healing steps
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