About this episode

Kenny Weiss discusses the concept of parentification and its impact on adult relationships, emphasizing the need for emotional authenticity and boundary setting.

If your mom called you her best friend and your dad called you his confidant, you were not in a close family, you were parentified. This video explains parentification, emotional incest, and the survival persona that keeps you over-functioning in every adult relationship. This video is for the high-functioning, emotionally exhausted adult who runs every household, every project, and every relationship while quietly wondering why nothing feels like enough. It is for the over-giver, the over-thinker, the middle-aged adult finally setting boundaries with a parent, and the single parent terrified of passing this pattern to their kids. Inside, Kenny Weiss explains why parentification is not just having too much responsibility as a child, why it is a form of emotional incest, why your survival persona is built on the sentence "I only matter if I am useful," and how the chessboard you grew up on is the only board you have ever been taught to play on. You will learn how parentification creates the Worst Day Cycle™ of trauma, fear, shame, and denial that runs underneath your love addiction, your love avoidance, and your compulsive caretaking. You will learn how the Authentic…

People in this episode

Host: Kenny Weiss

Topics covered

• parentification
• emotional incest
• survival persona
• boundaries
• emotional authenticity
• trauma
• self improvement

Keywords

• parentification
• emotional incest
• survival persona
• boundaries
• emotional authenticity
• trauma
• love addiction
• caretaking
• self improvement
• feelization

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