#319 How Oversharing Can Deepen Relationships with Leslie John

About this episode

Leslie John discusses the importance of oversharing in building trust and intimacy in relationships.

In today’s expert episode, I’m interviewing Leslie John , Harvard Business School professor and author of the new book "Revealing: The Underrated Power of Oversharing ." We dive into why sharing—especially the messy, vulnerable stuff—is so crucial to building trust and intimacy in relationships. Leslie shares fascinating research about why people tend to choose honesty over secrecy (even when the truth is uncomfortable), why cultural norms often pressure us not to reveal our true selves, and how her own experiences with marriage and divorce shaped her understanding of emotional honesty. We also talk about gendered expectations around sharing, how "mind reading expectations" can hurt our partnerships, navigating oversharing in early dating, and how to keep practicing vulnerability even if it didn’t go well in the past. If you’ve ever wondered where the line is with oversharing—and how to create deeper connections without losing yourself—this conversation is for you. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you:  https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go…

People in this episode

Host: Break Up Bestie

Guest: Leslie John

Topics covered

• oversharing
• relationships
• trust
• intimacy
• vulnerability
• emotional honesty

Keywords

• oversharing
• relationships
• trust
• vulnerability
• emotional honesty
• gendered expectations
• dating

Sponsors

SKIMS, Wayfair

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Harvard Business School

Books & works: Revealing: The Underrated Power of Oversharing

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