Heal Your Heartbreak

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Margaret Rutherford, clinical psychologist, author, and host of The SelfWork Podcast, to dive deep into the topic of “perfectly hidden depression”—a term she coined and explores in her bestselling book and TEDx talk. We discuss how those who seem “put together” on the outside can silently struggle beneath the surface, why high-achievers and caretakers can be vulnerable to hiding their pain, and how this pattern can show up after heartbreak. Dr. Rutherford shares her personal story, the warning signs of hidden depression, actionable steps for breaking through emotional walls, and how moments of crisis like a breakup can be a catalyst for healing and self-acceptance. If you’ve ever felt like admitting your pain would shatter your carefully-crafted image, this is the episode for you.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LNTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Patio season is here and these deals won’t last! head to Wayfair.com right now to get your outdoor space ready for way less. That’s WAYFAIR.COMUpgrade your sleep with Boll & Branch. Get 15% off your first order plus free shipping at BollAndBranch.com/heartbreak with code heartbreak. You don’t have to say yes to everything this summer. Find support in therapy. Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's expert episode, I'm joined by one of my all-time favorite guests (and yours!), Guy Winch, psychologist, TED speaker, and author of the brand new book Mind Over Grind. We dive deep into the topic of how workplace stress and burnout can erode our relationships, sometimes leading to breakups and heartache. We talk about the unconscious ways that work stress spills over into our home lives, why productivity can become a numbing tool after heartbreak, and how rumination keeps us stuck during tough transitions. Guy Winch shares research-backed insights on why burnout can make us feel numb—even toward the people we love most—and gives practical tips for both partners: whether you're the one obsessing about work, or on the receiving end feeling like you've come second to your partner's job. We also discuss key conversations to have early on when dating again, especially if you've got a history of choosing partners who are married to their work. If you've ever wondered how to set healthy work boundaries, or want to understand the hidden ways stress can impact your love life, this episode is packed with validation, practical advice, and hope.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LNTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/heartbreak.Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that followsVisit quitwithjones.com/HEARTBREAK to take the free quiz and use code HEARTBREAK to get 15% off your personalized quitting journey.Let me get you started with 20% off your first order. Visit TONETODAY.com… Promo Code HEARTBREAK.Refresh your wardrobe with Quince. Go to Quince.com/heartbreak for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's solo episode, I'm sitting down and sharing off the cuff about something unexpected that came up for me in therapy this week—old pain from a toxic relationship I was in over a decade ago. Even though I haven't gone through a breakup in years, this experience reminded me how healing from heartbreak, especially from trauma and narcissistic abuse, happens in layers and isn't always linear. I discuss how triggers from my past appeared in my current marriage, what it's like to feel frustrated that old wounds resurface even after doing so much "work," and how I'm learning to have more compassion for my younger self. This episode isn't about having all the answers, but rather about being honest with the messy parts of the healing journey, processing in real time, and offering support to anyone who feels shame for still being affected by a breakup, no matter how long ago it happened.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LNTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873For a limited time, OneSkin is making it even easier to stay consistent with up to 30% off your first 3 subscription orders when you use code HEARTBREAK at oneskin.co/HEARTBREAK.Go to drinkag1.com/heartbreak to get their best offer… For a limited time only, get a FREE AG1 duffel bag and FREE AG1 Welcome Kit with your first subscription order!If you want to lose meaningful weight at a healthy pace and keep it off... Add LEAN to your diet and exercise lifestyle. Get 20% OFF WHEN YOU ENTER HEARTBREAK at takelean.comBetterHelp makes it easy to get matched online with a qualified therapist. Sign up and get 10% off at Betterhelp.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Kati Morton—licensed marriage and family therapist, bestselling author, and one of the most trusted mental health voices online. We dive into her newest book, "Why Do I Keep Doing This?" and explore how our desire for control impacts everything from relationships to mental health. In our conversation, we talk about the many ways control can show up—beyond the classic “type A” stereotype—including people pleasing, passive aggression, and perfectionism. Kati Morton shares her own journey with control, and we discuss why self-knowledge alone isn’t enough to change patterns and break free from cycles we know aren’t serving us. We also get into the unique struggle of wanting closure after a breakup, and how we can start to process experiences, sit with discomfort, and move toward more helpful behavior without shaming ourselves into change. Whether you’re currently going through heartbreak or simply looking to understand yourself better, this episode will help you release the illusion of control and find compassion in your healing process.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LNTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873For a limited time, OneSkin is making it even easier to stay consistent with up to 30% off your first 3 subscription orders when you use code HEARTBREAK at oneskin.co/HEARTBREAK.Go to drinkag1.com/heartbreak to get their best offer… For a limited time only, get a FREE AG1 duffel bag and FREE AG1 Welcome Kit with your first subscription order!If you want to lose meaningful weight at a healthy pace and keep it off... Add LEAN to your diet and exercise lifestyle. Get 20% OFF WHEN YOU ENTER HEARTBREAK at takelean.comBetterHelp makes it easy to get matched online with a qualified therapist. Sign up and get 10% off at Betterhelp.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's solo episode, I'm reflecting on a practice that's been a huge part of my own healing journey—gratitude texting. As we kick off 2026, I share the five biggest lessons I've learned after nearly six years of sending daily gratitude texts with a small group of friends. I dive into how this habit started during my own heartbreak, why it works even when the group isn't made up of lifelong friends, and how it's helped me focus on life's small joys, build deeper connections, and even learn to celebrate my own wins. I wrap up with practical tips and a challenge for you to try starting your own gratitude list—whether you're moving through heartbreak or just looking to bring more positivity into your life.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LNTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873For a limited time, OneSkin is making it even easier to stay consistent with up to 30% off your first 3 subscription orders when you use code HEARTBREAK at oneskin.co/HEARTBREAK.Go to drinkag1.com/heartbreak to get their best offer… For a limited time only, get a FREE AG1 duffel bag and FREE AG1 Welcome Kit with your first subscription order!If you want to lose meaningful weight at a healthy pace and keep it off... Add LEAN to your diet and exercise lifestyle. Get 20% OFF WHEN YOU ENTER HEARTBREAK at takelean.comBetterHelp makes it easy to get matched online with a qualified therapist. Sign up and get 10% off at Betterhelp.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.