99. The Other Side of Betrayal: The Ten Core Wounds of The One Who Betrayed

About this episode

This episode explores the ten core wounds experienced by those who betray, aiming to foster understanding and healing.

In December, I released a podcast called The Ten Core Wounds of Betrayal , which explored the deep and lasting wounds experienced by betrayed partners. In this follow-up episode, we turn toward the other side of the rupture - the often unseen and rarely discussed wounds carried by those who do the betraying. This conversation is not about justifying or minimizing betrayal . Instead, it’s about understanding the internal landscape that often exists beneath betraying behavior. Drawing from clinical insight and relational patterns, this episode explores ten core wounds commonly experienced by people who betray - wounds that can show up in both men and women, while also acknowledging that some tend to appear more frequently in men due to socialization, attachment patterns, and emotional conditioning. By naming these wounds - such as shame, emotional disconnection, unmet attachment needs, and identity fractures - we begin to see betrayal not as random or purely selfish, but as something that often emerges from unresolved internal pain. Understanding these wounds can be a powerful step toward accountability, empathy, and meaningful repair. Whether you are a betrayed partner seeking…

People in this episode

Host: Marnie Breecker

Topics covered

• betrayal
• core wounds
• emotional disconnection
• accountability
• healing
• relationships

Keywords

• betrayal
• core wounds
• shame
• emotional disconnection
• attachment needs
• identity fractures
• healing
• relationships

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