About this episode

This episode discusses the feelings of guilt and self-blame that often accompany pregnancy and infant loss, emphasizing the importance of compassion over self-criticism.

Why Do I Feel Like I Failed My Baby? Working Through Guilt, Blame, and Self-Criticism After Baby Loss This episode contains conversations about pregnancy loss, infant loss, grief, guilt, self-blame, and trauma. Please listen at a pace that feels supportive for you. If you need to pause, take a break, or come back another day, give yourself that permission. Your heart matters here. About This Episode After pregnancy or infant loss, one of the heaviest burdens many mothers carry isn't just grief it's guilt. Maybe you've replayed every appointment. Every decision. Every conversation. Maybe you've asked yourself: "What if I had gone in sooner?" "What if I had noticed something?" "What if I had pushed harder?" "Did I fail my baby?" If those questions sound familiar, I want you to know something before you even press play: You are not alone. In this episode of Holding Women Through Grief, we're talking about why guilt can become one of grief's loudest voices, why our brains often search for someone to blame, and how hindsight can convince us we should have known what was impossible to know in the moment. Together, we'll explore the difference between guilt and responsibility, why…

People in this episode

Host: Tasha Cofer

Topics covered

• pregnancy loss
• infant loss
• grief
• guilt
• self-blame
• trauma
• compassion

Keywords

• guilt
• grief
• self-criticism
• pregnancy loss
• infant loss
• self-blame
• compassion
• trauma

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