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After baby loss, it’s common for couples to grieve differently. One person may want to talk while the other shuts down. One may want closeness while the other needs space. One may be drowning in emotions while the other is just trying to function. In this episode, we talk about how love languages can become a translation tool during grief not a magic fix, not pressure, and not a cute checklist. Just a simple way to ask:“What kind of love feels possible today?” We cover: why connection can break down after baby loss how grief can change the way you give and receive love what each love language can look like during grief tiny 2–5 minute connection rituals for couples scripts to help reduce arguments and misunderstandings one simple text you can send your partner when you need closeness Text to try:“Hey I know we grieve differently. I’m not asking you to be like me. I just need a little closeness. Can we do 5 minutes tonight no fixing, just us?” If you and your partner are grieving differently, this is your reminder:Different coping doesn’t mean different love.You don’t have to fix each other. You just have to keep choosing small moments of connection. For more support, resources, and coaching, visit my website. Disclaimer: This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist. If you need professional mental health support, please reach out to a licensed therapist, grief counselor, or medical provider.

What do you really want to ask someone who supports grieving families for a living? No sugarcoating. No Pinterest grief quotes. Just honest answers to real questions — from “Am I crazy?” to “How do I handle people who say the dumbest things?” If you’ve ever listened to an episode and thought, “Okay but what about MY weird thought?” …this one is for you. Have you ever thought, “Am I doing grief wrong?” Do you feel numb one day and wrecked the next — and wonder what that means? Do you want to scream when someone says “everything happens for a reason” or starts a sentence with “at least…”? Have you ever had a grief thought so “unhinged” you didn’t even want to admit it out loud? Real answers we talk through Why you still feel sad when others have moved on: Because they moved on from the moment — but you’re still living the reality. You lost a person, a future, a dream. Jealousy after loss: No, you’re not awful. You’re heartbroken. You can be happy for someone and grieving for you — both can be true. What to say when someone says “at least…”: Respectfully? “At least” never helps. Swap it for: “I’m so sorry.” and presence. (And if you’re the grieving one? You’re allowed to set the boundary.) How to know if you’re healing: Healing isn’t the absence of pain — it’s the return of presence. Sometimes you don’t know until one day you breathe a little deeper… cry a little softer… laugh without punishing yourself for it. When people ask when you’re trying again: Your womb and your timeline are not community property. You’re allowed to say: “That’s private.” Full stop. Bonus truth: Yes, you can stop trying to be okay. You have nothing to prove. This weeks journal prompt : “What would it feel like to stop performing your grief — and start honoring it honestly?” If This Episode Resonated, Listen Next Episode 12: Jealousy After Loss — When Pregnancy Announcements Hurt — if comparisons and triggers hit you out of nowhere Episode 5: What Healing After Loss Really Looks Like — if you keep wondering whether you’re “doing this right” Episode 9: When Loss Changes Your Relationship — if grief has shifted how you and your partner connect This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist. If you need professional mental health support, please reach out to a licensed therapist, grief counselor, or medical provider.

You’ve probably heard the phrase “1 in 4”… but behind that number are real women, real grief, and real silence. If hearing statistics makes your stomach drop — or pulls you right back to that moment — I want you to take a breath with me. This episode is a gentle space to talk about what the numbers actually mean, why miscarriage and pregnancy loss are more common than anyone talks about, and what healing can look like when your world has changed. Have you ever thought, “I didn’t know this was common… I thought it was just me”? Do you find yourself replaying the “what ifs” and wondering if you caused it? Have you felt like the statistic validates you… and yet somehow still makes you feel erased? Do you need someone to say, clearly: this isn’t your fault — and you don’t have to earn the right to grieve? In this episode, we’re taking the “1 in 4” statistic and putting a human heart back inside it. Because when no one talks about pregnancy loss, you don’t just grieve the baby — you start grieving your confidence. You start questioning your body. You start carrying shame that was never yours to carry. We talk about what the stats really say, why pregnancy loss happens (especially early loss), and why so many women blame themselves for things that weren’t in their control. And I say this plainly in the episode, but I’m going to say it here too: You didn’t cause this. This isn’t your fault. And you don’t have to earn the right to grieve. We also name something important: sometimes “common” doesn’t feel comforting — it can feel infuriating. Like you’re being turned into a number instead of honored as a mother with a story. So we talk about how to let the information validate you without letting it erase you. And then we move into the part so many women need next: what healing can look like (no timelines, no pressure), how to get out of the “what if” spiral, how to ask for what you actually need, and when it’s time to reach for professional support. What You’ll Hear in This Episode what “1 in 4” actually means and why it matters why miscarriage and pregnancy loss are more common than people talk about a grounded explanation of common causes of early pregnancy loss (without blame) myth vs truth for the thoughts that shame loves to use (“I caused it,” “my body failed”) what healing can look like in real life (not Pinterest healing — real healing) simple, one-sentence ways to ask for support when you don’t even know what you need This Weeks Journal Prompt “What does hearing these statistics make me feel about my own loss — or the losses of women I love? What do I want to say to myself right now?” If This Episode Resonated, Listen Next Episode 1: The First Days After Loss — What No One Prepares You For — if you’re still in shock or early survival mode Episode 5: What Healing After Loss Really Looks Like — if you feel like you “should be over it by now” Episode 4: Why Baby Loss Still Feels So Invisible — if the silence from others has made everything heavier If you know someone who has ever whispered, “I thought it was just me,” send them this episode.Not because it fixes anything — but because it names the truth. And naming the truth is how shame starts to loosen. If you want quieter support between episodes, I’d love to welcome you into my private email community — gentle reflections, reminders, and support that doesn’t require you to explain yourself. Pick one friend you know has experienced loss (even years ago) and send this exact text with the episode link: “I thought of you when I listened to this. No pressure to respond — I just wanted you to know you’re not alone.” This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist.I’m also not a doctor or licensed healthcare provider. If you have questions about your specific health or pregnancy history, please reach out to your doctor, midwife, or medical provider.If you need professional mental health support, please reach out to a licens

Have you looked at your relationship after loss and thought, “What’s wrong with us?” Do you feel like you’re grieving out loud… and your partner is grieving in silence? Have you caught yourself thinking, “Why am I the only one carrying this?” Nobody really warns you that grief doesn’t just break your heart — it can shift your whole relationship.And if things feel harder between you and your partner right now, I want you to hear this clearly: Nothing is wrong with you. You’re grieving. In this episode, we talk about what happens when two people are hurting… but hurting differently.One person might need to talk, cry, process out loud. The other might go quiet, shut down, focus on functioning. And when you’re standing in those two different places, it’s easy for a story to form: “They don’t care as much as I do.” But most of the time, that isn’t the truth.Most of the time, they care deeply — they’ve just been taught to survive by staying silent. I explain it like this:You’re on the same street… just different sidewalks.One of you stops every few steps because the grief hits hard. The other walks faster because slowing down feels like drowning. And if you don’t understand what’s happening, it starts to feel like distance — when really it’s just two nervous systems coping the best way they know how. We also talk about why grief changes relationships: Different grieving styles (out loud vs. inward) Role confusion (both trying to hold it together for each other) Unspoken resentment (“Why aren’t they crying?” / “Why do I feel alone?”) Shifts in intimacy and closeness The weight of everything else (bills, work, explaining, functioning) And then I share a few real, tangible ways to support each other without trying to “fix” anything. 3 Tangible Ways to Support Each Other in Grief Name the difference without blame“I’ve noticed we grieve differently. Can we talk about that without judgment?” Create small connection momentsNot to fix anything — just to be together.Holding hands. Sitting quietly. Asking: “How’s your heart today?” Get outside supportA support group, therapist, or trusted guide can help hold space for both of you — especially when communication feels hard. Journal Prompt “How has grief impacted the way I show up in my relationships?”Optional: “What do I wish my partner or loved one understood about my grief?” If you’re listening to this alone and wishing your partner understood… you’re not failing.Sometimes understanding comes after the words.And sometimes an episode like this becomes the bridge. If this resonated, consider sharing it — especially with your partner.You don’t have to explain everything perfectly. Sometimes sending an episode and saying, “This feels like us,” is enough. Disclaimer This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist. If you need professional mental health support, please reach out to a licensed therapist, grief counselor, or medical provider. Reminder Your grief is not too much.Your pain is not proof your relationship is broken.And even if things feel hard right now — you are not alone. Until next time…Be gentle with your heart. And with the hearts grieving beside you.

Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought, “I don’t recognize myself anymore”? Do you feel like grief has taken not just your baby, but pieces of who you used to be? Are you wondering who you are now — and whether that version of you is still deserving of love? In today’s conversation, we’re exploring one of the most tender truths of grief: how loss changes your identity — and how hard it can feel to love the woman you’re becoming. Grief can make you feel like a stranger to yourself and to people around you.. Your reflection looks different. Your energy shifts. Your purpose feels blurry. And suddenly, the version of you before loss feels more like a memory than a place you can return to. This episode walks through why self-love feels so far away after loss and why that distance has nothing to do with your worth. You’ll learn gentle ways to begin reconnecting with yourself, nurturing the woman you are now, and offering compassion where blame once lived. Loving yourself again doesn’t mean returning to who you were — it means honoring who you are today, even in the midst of grief. Related Episodes: Episode 5: What Healing After Loss Really Looks Like Episode 6: Am I Still a Mother After Loss? Disclaimer: This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist. Please reach out to a licensed mental health provider or grief-informed professional if you need additional support. Next Steps: Subscribe so new episodes continue to meet you right where you are. Share this episode with someone struggling to recognize themselves after loss. Leave a review if today’s message helped soften something inside you — it helps other grieving mothers find this comforting space. Join the private email community for deeper, weekly reflections and gentle encouragement.

Have you ever wondered, “Shouldn’t this be over by now?” Do you feel confused by the back-and-forth waves of grief — doing “okay” one moment and falling apart the next? Have you questioned whether you’re healing at all because it doesn’t look the way you thought it would? In today’s episode, we’re talking about healing after baby loss — without timelines, pressure, or shame. Healing is often described like a destination or a finish line, but real healing looks nothing like that. It’s not quick. It’s not tidy. And it’s certainly not linear. I share the story of a mother who asked me, “Will I ever truly feel joy again?” followed by the painful whisper, “I shouldn’t still feel like this.” Together, we explore where this idea of an “expiration date” on grief even comes from — and why it’s simply not true. We talk about the spiraling nature of healing, how you may revisit feelings again and again, and why those moments are not setbacks but part of the sacred unfolding of grief. You’ll hear how your body holds trauma, why brain fog and fatigue show up long after others think you should be okay, and how anniversaries can bring a rush of emotion that isn’t regression but remembrance. This episode gently reminds you:Healing isn’t forgetting. Healing isn’t moving on. Healing is learning how to carry your grief — and your love — in a new, more compassionate way. You’re not behind. You’re not failing. You’re human. And you’re still healing, even on the days you can’t feel it. Recap from Today’s Episode Healing is not linear — it spirals. • Setbacks don’t mean failure. • Grief is emotional and physical. • You don’t have to “move on” to move forward. • You are still healing, even if no one sees it. Grounding Tools from This Episode Journal Prompt: “What does healing look like for me — in this season, as I am now?” Related Episodes: Episode 1: What I Wish I Heard After Losing a Baby Episode 3: What Grief Looks Like (Even When It’s Not Sadness) Disclaimer:This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist. If you need professional mental health care, please reach out to a licensed therapist, grief counselor, or trusted provider. Let’s stay connected:Email → holdingwomenthroughgrief@gmail.com Next Steps: Subscribe to receive new episodes every week. Share this episode with someone who needs reassurance that healing has no timeline. Leave a review if today’s conversation supported you — it helps this space reach more grieving mothers. Join the private email list for deeper reflections, journal prompts, and grief-informed tools.

Does your grief show up in ways that don’t look like “typical” sadness? Have you ever wondered why you feel numb, irritated, overwhelmed — or completely fine… until you’re not? Do you catch yourself cleaning, scrolling, or staying busy and wonder, “Is this grief, too?” In today’s conversation, we’re looking at the many faces grief can take — especially the ones society doesn’t talk about. Grief isn’t always tears and long days in bed. Sometimes it shows up as anger, numbness, irritability, over-functioning, silence, or the endless scrolling we do just to escape our thoughts. I share stories from the women I’ve sat with — mothers who laughed in the most impossible moments, who scrubbed their homes top to bottom, who felt nothing at all, or who moved through their days as if everything were fine. Every one of them was grieving. We explore how grief impacts the nervous system, the brain, and the body itself — how fog, exhaustion, and difficulty concentrating aren’t personal failings but physical signs of profound loss. And together, we walk through gentle ways to support yourself when your grief doesn’t look the way you expected. From noticing without judgment, to grounding your nervous system, to offering yourself one honest moment a day… this episode gives you permission to let your grief be exactly what it is. You are allowed to feel nothing. You are allowed to feel too much. It’s all grief. It’s all valid. Stay Connected & Supported: Join my private email community for reflections, grief tools, and behind-the-scenes support Related Episodes: Episode: What I Wish I Heard After Losing a Baby Episode: The First Days After Loss — What No One Prepares You For Journal Prompt from Today’s Episode: “How does my grief show up when no one is watching?” Disclaimer:This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist. If you are struggling with your mental health or need professional guidance, please reach out to a licensed mental health provider, grief counselor, or trusted medical professional. Let’s stay close: Email → holdingwomenthroughgrief@gmail.com Next Steps: Subscribe to receive these gentle conversations each week. Share this episode with someone who may be grieving quietly or questioning whether their grief is “normal.” Leave a review if today’s message helped you feel understood — it helps this space reach others who need comfort and truth. Join the private email community for honest reflections, grounding practices, and weekly support.