109. How to Move Forward after Loss : Grief, Identity, and Reinventing Yourself with Kym Coco

About this episode

Holly Toscanini interviews Kym Coco about rebuilding identity and self-trust after significant loss.

There's a particular kind of “lost” that doesn't have a clean name. It's not always grief, though it can be. It's not always a crisis, though it can feel like one. It's the feeling of waking up and not quite recognizing the life you're living — or the woman living it. That's exactly what today's episode is about. Holly sits down with Kym Coco — author, yogi, kinesiology expert, and creator of Swagtail.com — to talk about what it really takes to rebuild your sense of self after a major life shift. Kym lost her husband and teaching partner, Stephen Thompson, and found herself having to figure out who she was and how to move forward when the life she'd built had changed completely. What she found — on a mountainside and in the years that followed — became her book Miracle on the Mountainside and the foundation of the tools she now teaches. In this episode, you'll hear: why feeling frozen after a big life change isn't weakness — it's your nervous system doing its job, and what to do instead. How to tell the difference between fear and intuition when you genuinely can't trust your own instincts. What rebuilding self-trust looks like before it feels possible. Simple nervous system…

People in this episode

Host: Holly Toscanini

Guest: Kym Coco

Topics covered

• grief
• identity
• reinventing yourself
• self-trust
• nervous system tools
• life transitions

Keywords

• grief
• identity
• self-trust
• life transitions
• nervous system
• reinvention
• Kym Coco
• Holly Toscanini

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Swagtail.com

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