Is He a Narcissist or Just Avoidant? | Dr. Leslie Dobson & Adam Lane Smith

Is He a Narcissist or Just Avoidant? | Dr. Leslie Dobson & Adam Lane Smith

March 19, 2026 · 1h 18m · Episode 124

About this episode

Adam Lane Smith and Dr. Leslie Dobson discuss the complexities of identifying narcissism and avoidant behavior in relationships.

Most people online will tell you your partner is a narcissist because he didn't text back fast enough. This conversation is nothing like that. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Dr. Leslie Dobson, forensic psychologist and court-appointed expert who has spent her career inside prisons, jails, and psych hospitals assessing the most dangerous individuals in the system, to give you a reality-based answer to the question so many people are afraid to ask: am I actually in danger? What you'll learn in this conversation:1- Why true narcissistic personality disorder is rare and why misusing the term puts people at real risk2- What coercive control actually is, and why a federal judge needed to hear that it's more dangerous than physical violence3- How to tell the difference between an avoidant partner and an actual predator4- What narcissists are scanning for in a potential target and why certain attachment wounds make you more visible to them5- Why the 10% good moments in a toxic relationship are not evidence that things can change6- How isolation works, why it happens so gradually, and what it takes to reconnect with the people who knew you before7- What forensic journaling looks like and…

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