Why Christian Men Are So Anxious In Dating | Franco Fernandez & Adam Lane Smith

About this episode

This episode features a raw conversation about the anxieties young men face in dating, exploring attachment styles and the importance of genuine connection.

Most young men today have never had a real conversation about relationships with another man who actually knows what he is talking about. This episode is that conversation. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Franco Fernandez, a 24 year old Catholic content creator with a large social media following, for one of the most raw and honest coaching sessions the show has ever done. Franco came in thinking he was just anxiously attached. What came out was something much more layered, much more human, and much more relatable than either of them expected. What you will learn in this conversation: 1- Why young men today are trying to reverse engineer something they were never shown from the inside and why that is not their fault2- How anxious and avoidant tendencies pull in opposite directions at the same time and what that looks like in real dating situationsWhy performing to make someone like you is the exact thing that prevents real connection from ever forming4- Why chasing the hardest to get woman is not always confidence and what it might actually be rooted in5- The difference between a feelings based relationship and a real one and why feelings alone will…

People in this episode

Host: Adam Lane Smith

Guest: Franco Fernandez

Topics covered

• anxiety in dating
• male relationships
• attachment styles
• intimacy building
• real connection
• dating challenges

Keywords

• anxiety
• dating
• attachment styles
• intimacy
• male relationships
• connection
• coaching

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Catholic

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