So You Wanna Have a Threesome? (ft. Gabrielle Alexa Noel)
About this episode
Alexa Andre and Gabrielle Alexa Noel discuss the complexities and dynamics of threesomes, including communication, jealousy, and the importance of making the third participant feel special.
Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) gets in bed with writer, sex educator, and polyamorous creator Gabrielle Alexa Noel to talk about the fantasy everyone has — and the one that goes wrong the most: threesomes . From “unicorn hunting” to couple privilege, from jealousy to communication, this episode breaks down what actually makes a threesome hot and what makes it awkward, performative, or emotionally messy. Gabby and Alexa unpack why “the third is the star of the show,” why gifting a threesome is a red flag, why kissing rules are often a dealbreaker, and why straight couples may have an easier time swapping than finding a unicorn. In this episode, we cover: The biggest communication mistakes couples make Why “creating safety” changes everything Kissing rules some couples have “Couple privilege and why it matters Why the third needs to feel special How to DM a third correctly (and what NOT to say) Signs a couple isn’t actually ready Emotional labor being offloaded onto the third Why you should take the third on a date Why swapping couples may be easier than unicorn hunting Jealousy and insecurity during group sex What to do when someone feels left out Aftercare expectations…
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