In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Vee and Elle from the Girls Gone Deep podcast for an honest conversation about sexuality, identity, motherhood, non-monogamy, desire, dating, pleasure, and why "sluthood" has nothing to do with how much sex you're having.Together they explore whether you can still be a slut while celibate, the difference between sex positivity and sluthood, and why owning your desires without shame is at the heart of sexual empowerment.Topics Covered:• Why "sluthood" is a mindset, not a body count• Sex positivity vs. sluthood• Owning sexual desires and boundaries• Polyamory and relationship de-escalation• Solo poly life and finding a new primary partner• BDSM dynamics, D/s relationships, and sexual compatibility• Playing together vs. playing separately in non-monogamous relationships• Feeling sexually satiated in long-term partnerships• Asexuality, demisexuality, and the ace spectrum• Whether you can be an asexual slut• Anonymous sex vs. sex with emotional connection• Sex parties and sex-positive communities• Building trust, safety, and desire with recurring partners• Female arousal, nervous system safety, and orgasm• Why one pregnancy can feel completely different from another• Postpartum sexuality and loss of desire• Returning to sex after giving birth• Masturbation during pregnancy and postpartum• First postpartum orgasms and sexual rediscovery• Oral sex, receiving pleasure, and people-pleasing tendencies• Why some women struggle to receive• "Real eaters" and enthusiastic oral sex partners• The psychology of receiving pleasure• The Wheel of Consent• Foreplay, full-body arousal, and erotic anticipation• Female desire and what actually creates arousal• Grinding, making out, and erotic tension• Bad kissers and sexual compatibility• What makes oral sex feel incredible• Leaving casual sex behind• Dating with intention• Childfree dating and relationship dealbreaker• Having sex on the first date• Slow burns versus instant chemistry• Building tension before sex• Boundaries, self-control, and emotional attachment• Future sexual adventures and lifestyle goalsFollow Girls Gone Deep:Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppodFollow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexaPatreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexaSponsor:Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beduc.at/pd2624-alexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with writer, performer, director, and sex worker Lucy Hart for an honest conversation about reinvention, desire, identity, and learning how to start over without losing yourself. Lucy shares what it has been like to transition later in life, rebuild after financial loss, find community through kink and creativity, and forgive herself through every stage of change.In this episode, they discuss:Reinventing yourself multiple times throughout lifeTransitioning later in life and trusting your timingBuilding chosen family and supportive communityTalking about sex before getting into bedEnding sex based on satisfaction, not performanceCommunication, oral sex, toys, kink, and curiositySexual responsibility, testing, PrEP, and harm reductionThe importance of kissing and chemistryExploring kink slowly and without pressurePower dynamics and shifting rolesLosing financial stability and rebuilding from scratchDivorce, grief, and letting go of relationships that no longer fitForgiveness as a daily practiceLetting go of resentment and self-blameRedefining success and happinessMaking peace with impermanenceTrusting yourself to rebuild again if neededThank you Splash Blanket for keeping me and my guests cozy ◡̈

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with pleasure coach, intimacy educator, and professional Dom Sir Marvelous for a conversation about real dominance, fake Doms, pleasure-centered sex, and why communication and patience are the foundation of good BDSM—and good sex in general. This episode breaks down what dominance actually looks like beyond performance, how to spot manipulative dynamics early, and why prioritizing pleasure leads to deeper trust, safety, and better sex.In this episode, Alexa and Sir Marvelous discuss:What actually makes someone a real Dom vs a fake DomWhy “pleasure Dom” is often misunderstood and misusedHow fake Doms weaponize submissive language on dating appsManipulation, rushing dynamics, and early red flagsPatience as the most attractive and essential Dom skillWhy dominance is about giving and not controllingWhy dominance doesn’t have to include pain, whips, or chainsEating pussy before, during, and after penetrationAnxiety, erections, and why losing one isn’t a failureStrap-ons, toys, and removing ego from penetrationAsking better questions about pleasure and satisfactionThe brain as the biggest sex organPost-sex debriefing: what worked, what didn’t, what to do more ofAdvocating for pleasure in Dom/sub dynamicsBeginner Dom mistakes to avoidWhy Doms should experience submission or bottomingPerformative dominance vs authentic presenceThank you Splash Blanket for keeping me and my guests cozy ◡̈

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with hypnotherapist and intimacy coach Kate Shelor for an in-depth conversation about erotic hypnosis, the subconscious mind, and how our thoughts, beliefs, and emotional conditioning shape pleasure, desire, and orgasm. Recorded on the Temptation Cruise, this episode breaks down what hypnosis really is, how it differs from pop-culture myths, and how erotic hypnosis can help people get out of their heads, release sexual shame, and reconnect with their bodies.In this episode, Alexa and Kate discuss:The role of the subconscious mind in sex, pleasure, and behaviorWhy so many people struggle to stay present during sexAnxiety, body image, and self-conscious thoughts in the bedroomHow hypnosis helps people get out of their heads and into sensationWhy all hypnosis is ultimately self-hypnosisConsent, collaboration, and personal agency in hypnosisCommon myths about hypnosis from movies and pop cultureWhether some people are “more hypnotizable” than othersSexual blocks related to orgasms, erections, and arousalKate’s personal journey using hypnotherapy to overcome orgasm strugglesHow language and self-talk program sexual responsesThe power of repetition in shaping subconscious beliefsBlindfolds, sensory deprivation, and imagination in erotic playPractical self-hypnosis and mindset exercises for homeAuditing negative self-talk and replacing it intentionallyRewriting old conditioning with new emotional experiencesWhy the subconscious mind overrides logic every timeSurrounding yourself with sex-positive language and mediaThe best time of day for self-hypnosisHow long hypnosis takes to create change🔥 Want more? Join my ⁠Patreon⁠ for unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes tea on my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram!

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with sex & relationship coach Catherine Drysdale for the most honest, nuanced conversation about voluntary celibacy you’ve ever heard. Together they break down how intentionally stepping away from partnered sex can reset your dating patterns, raise your standards, calm your nervous system, help you stop centering dating/sex, reconnect you to your body, and ultimately make your sex life better.In this episode, Catherine opens up about: What voluntary celibacy actually meansWhy she’s chosen celibacy multiple timesLibido dips during high-stress seasons– Prioritizing outercourse for better sexCelibacy as a tool for breaking validation cyclesHow to stop centering dating, sex and external validationDating while celibate & setting clear boundariesHow long a celibacy period should lastHow to decide when to re-enter sex or dating into your lifeWhat she learned about sexual compatibilityThe “reset effect” on desire and self-esteemHow celibacy helped her see red flags soonerWhy a sex break often leads to better sexHow to be more intentional once you start having sex againThank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2548-alexa🔥 Want more? Join my ⁠Patreon⁠ for unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes tea on my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram!