How to Create Loving Relationships Without Losing Yourself

About this episode

Dr. Margaret Paul discusses how to maintain one's identity in loving relationships and the importance of self-connection.

Have you ever felt yourself slowly disappearing in a relationship? In this deeply moving episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores one of the most common — and most overlooked — blocks to true intimacy: self-abandonment. She unpacks why so many of us lose our voice, our needs, and our sense of self in relationships, and what it truly takes to love deeply without betraying yourself. Dr. Paul guides us through the critical difference between love and attachment, how fear-based relating leads to resentment and emptiness, and why two whole, self-connected people are the foundation of any genuinely loving relationship. She also shares how the Inner Bonding process helps you develop the loving adult within — so you can show up honestly, set loving limits, and experience the kind of closeness that doesn't come at the cost of who you are. Come explore what it means to love without losing yourself in How to Create Loving Relationships Without Losing Yourself, and begin building the intimacy you've always wanted — from the inside out. Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the…

People in this episode

Host: Margaret Paul PhD

Topics covered

• self-abandonment
• intimacy
• love vs attachment
• fear-based relating
• Inner Bonding process
• self-connection

Keywords

• loving relationships
• self-identity
• intimacy
• self-healing
• Inner Bonding
• love
• attachment

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?, Healing Your Aloneness, Inner Bonding, Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?

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