112 | Is my husband a narcissist? Or am I just facing the consequences of my affair?

About this episode

In this episode, Kristina Joy explores the confusion surrounding the label of narcissism in the context of affair recovery and relationship dynamics.

If you’ve found yourself wondering, “Is he a narcissist… or is this just the fallout from everything that happened?” you’re not alone. This is one of the most confusing and emotionally loaded questions women ask after an affair, especially when you’re trying to take responsibility for your part while also making sense of the dynamics around you. In today’s episode, we slow things down and bring clarity to a word that gets thrown around a lot but isn’t always understood. I share from my own experience of first hearing this term in counseling, what it brought up for me, and how we can begin to discern what’s actually happening, without jumping to labels, blame, or more confusion. We explore: What the word “narcissist” actually means and why it’s often misunderstood• The nine core traits associated with Narcissistic Personality Disorder• Why labeling people too quickly can keep us stuck• How to discern the difference between affair fallout and deeper relational patterns• Why healthy boundaries are not unloving — and how Jesus modeled them If you’re the woman who never thought this would be part of your story, but you’re trying to understand the deeper dynamics in your marriage, you…

People in this episode

Host: Kristina Joy

Topics covered

• narcissism
• affair recovery
• relationship dynamics
• boundaries
• emotional healing

Keywords

• narcissist
• Narcissistic Personality Disorder
• affair fallout
• relationship patterns
• healthy boundaries

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