When It's Not Your Fault: Blame, Backlash, and Setting Limits

About this episode

The episode discusses how to handle blame from high conflict individuals and the importance of setting limits without succumbing to guilt.

When a high conflict person says it's all your fault, most reasonable people do something predictable — they start wondering what they did wrong. That instinct toward self-reflection is healthy in most relationships. With high conflict people, it becomes a trap. Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, and Megan Hunter, MBA, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, unpack why high conflict personalities blame with an intensity that triggers your brain's threat-detection system — and why that intensity is precisely what makes you absorb guilt that isn't yours. They cover how to reality-test yourself when the blame lands hard, what to expect when you finally set a limit, and how to sit with the backlash without retreating into self-doubt. It's All Your Fault is produced by TruStory FM. Full Show Notes & Resources Submit Questions | Full Show Notes | Bookstore | Website Watch this episode on YouTube Important Notice: Our discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (00:43) - It’s NOT Your Fault (02:22) - Why Do HCPs Blame? (07:00)…

People in this episode

Host: TruStory FM

Guests: Bill Eddy, Megan Hunter

Topics covered

• high conflict personalities
• blame
• setting limits
• self-doubt
• guilt absorption
• backlash

Keywords

• high conflict
• blame
• self-reflection
• guilt
• setting limits
• backlash
• emotional health

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: High Conflict Institute

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