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This episode discusses the importance of controlling one's speech and the wisdom found in the book of James regarding communication.

The book of James in the Bible, chapter 3:1-12 talks about the control of the tongue. James writes, “”We all stumble in many ways. If anyone is never at fault in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to keep his whole body in check.”(v.2) and “no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.”(v8) There are many other references in the Bible regarding the difficulty in controlling what we say. This is such a common issue that our society has clichés that highlight the problem, like, “think before you speak,” or “foot-in-mouth disease,” or “stop running your mouth before you swallow your head.” The fact of the matter is that the one who can discipline their speech will be considered wise. James also writes in 1:19, “…be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” Great advice, because taking some time to think, BEFORE speaking can solve many of the problems unleashed by undisciplined people. Your sharp tongue is not a blessing to anyone, including yourself. Follow the sage advice by Mrs. Whitaker: Before you speak, ask yourself three questions: Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind? If your words don’t pass these tests, it’s better to hold…

People in this episode

Host: Rick Upchuch

Topics covered

• communication
• self-discipline
• wisdom
• speech control
• Bible teachings

Keywords

• control of the tongue
• foot-in-mouth disease
• communication skills
• wisdom
• self-control

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Books & works: the book of James

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