Boundaries Will Cost You Relationships And That’s Okay | Mid Week Tease

About this episode

Adelle Onyango discusses the importance of setting boundaries in relationships and how it can lead to personal growth.

Setting boundaries will change your relationships. Not because you’re doing something wrong, but because you’re no longer showing up in ways that require you to abandon yourself. In this episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks why boundaries feel so difficult, why people react when you start setting them, and how to begin choosing yourself, without guilt. If you’ve ever struggled with saying no, felt guilty for putting yourself first, or worried that setting boundaries might cost you relationshipsm this episode is for you. In this episode, Adelle explores: What boundaries actually are (and what they’re not) Why boundaries feel uncomfortable and hard to maintain Different types of boundaries: time, emotional, communication, energy, financial (including black tax), physical, and mental Why people may resist or react to your boundaries The guilt and second-guessing that comes with choosing yourself Practical ways to start setting and holding boundaries This episode is grounded in psychology-backed insights like people-pleasing conditioning, attachment patterns, and cognitive dissonance, broken down in a way that’s relatable and easy to apply to your everyday life. If…

People in this episode

Hosts: Adelle Onyango, Adelle

Topics covered

• boundaries
• relationships
• self-care
• psychology
• personal development

Keywords

• setting boundaries
• people-pleasing
• attachment patterns
• cognitive dissonance
• choosing yourself
• emotional boundaries
• communication boundaries
• financial boundaries
• guilt
• second-guessing

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