About this episode

Adelle Onyango explores the concept of self-sabotage, its origins, and practical ways to overcome it.

This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks self-sabotage, what it really is, where it comes from, and how it quietly shows up in your daily life. If you’ve ever called yourself lazy, inconsistent, or undisciplined, this episode invites you to look deeper. Self-sabotage isn’t random. It’s patterned, protective, and often rooted in early beliefs about who you are and what you deserve. In this episode, Adelle explores the psychology behind self-sabotage, why chaos can feel more comfortable than peace, and how fear of being seen might be keeping you stuck. Most importantly, she shares practical ways to begin shifting these patterns, without shame, and without becoming someone else. In this episode, we cover: What self-sabotage actually is (and why it’s not laziness) How childhood experiences shape your patterns (inspired by Alfred Adler) Why your nervous system chooses familiar pain over unfamiliar peace The subtle ways self-sabotage shows up (procrastination, perfectionism, overthinking) The fear of being seen and how it keeps you playing small Why it’s so hard to stop self-sabotaging Simple, realistic ways to start shifting your patterns Listen to The Mid Week Tease A…

People in this episode

Host: Adelle Onyango

Topics covered

• self-sabotage
• psychology
• childhood experiences
• patterns
• fear of being seen
• personal development

Keywords

• self-sabotage
• laziness
• procrastination
• perfectionism
• overthinking
• nervous system
• personal growth

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