244. Why secure people share their needs

244. Why secure people share their needs

From Lit AF Relationships by Sarah Cohan

April 22, 2026 · 19 min · Episode 244

About this episode

This episode discusses the importance of sharing personal needs in relationships and how securely attached individuals approach this topic.

If you think you’re a burden for having needs or are worried people will leave if you have them, this episode is for you. I talk about why personal needs are inherently neutral for people who are securely attached. I explain how they view them, communicate them, and feel when they are met or sometimes not met. I explain why needs feel impossible if you have an insecure attachment style and how to inch closer to sharing them so you feel more supported and seen in your relationship. Tune in to start having a safe and secure relationship. Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043 Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/ If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

People in this episode

Host: Sarah Cohan

Topics covered

  • attachment styles
  • personal needs
  • secure relationships
  • communication
  • self-improvement

Keywords

  • secure attachment
  • insecure attachment
  • relationship needs
  • communication skills
  • healthy relationships

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