EP 132 You're Not Codependent
From Living While Loving Your Child Through Addiction by Heather Ross
March 29, 2026 · 33 min · Season 3 · Episode 132
About this episode
This episode explores the difference between being conditioned and being codependent, emphasizing self-understanding in the context of parenting a child with substance use issues.
You're Not Codependent. You're Conditioned. There's a difference. If you've ever asked yourself : Why am I like this? Why can't I calm down? Why do I keep reacting when I swore I wouldn't? Those questions have answers and they're not "you're codependent" or "you just need to detach." Actual answers that finally help you understand yourself. What you'll hear in this episode is something most people in this space aren't saying. The way you respond to your child's substance use isn't a character flaw. It's the predictable result of a lifetime of conditioning, biology, and a nervous system that was never taught what regulated even feels like. You were conditioned, hardwired, and set up to lose yourself long before your child ever started struggling. You'll understand why hormones, perimenopause,being an empty nester, and a child's substance use colliding at the same time creates a perfect storm that would challenge anyone. And you'll walk away understanding why the most powerful thing you can do for your child isn't focusing more on them - it's finally, fully understanding yourself. Because when you do, you understand your child better and they feel that difference. Not only does it…
People in this episode
Host: Heather Ross
Topics covered
- codependency
- parenting
- substance use
- self-understanding
- nervous system
- conditioning
Keywords
- codependency
- parenting
- substance use
- nervous system
- self-awareness
- conditioning
- hormones
- perimenopause
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