About this episode

Dean chats with writer and activist Eli Clare about his book 'Unfurl' and themes of grief, love, and activism.

Send us a message Dean chats with his friend, the brilliant writer and activist Eli Clare, about his newest book, Unfurl, which Eli describes as a queer disabled love song. Dean and Eli talk about grief and what it means to live with a broken heart, dealing with feelings of betrayal and disappointment in longtime movement work, and the persistence of internalized shame. They also talk about the importance of different types of connections across the long arc of Eli's exquisite work shaping tr...

People in this episode

Host: Dean Spade

Guest: Eli Clare

Topics covered

• queer identity
• disability
• grief
• love
• activism
• internalized shame

Keywords

• queer
• disabled
• love song
• grief
• activism
• internalized shame
• connections

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Unfurl

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