Love in a F*cked Up World
by Dean Spade
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AMA with Jessica Lanyadoo on Confidentiality, Self Care, and Maintaining Friendships
Sep 16, 2026
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Love and Relationships Across Prison Walls (Part 1)
May 28, 2026
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May 14, 2026
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| Date | Episode | Topics | Guests | Brands | Places | Keywords | Sponsor | Length | |
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| 10/15/26 | Ericka Hart | Send us a message Sex educator and Nasty Work author Ericka Hart joins Dean for a conversation about youth liberation, bodily autonomy, and finding pleasure and joy in our bodies as they change and age. Together, they explore queer parenting, the complexities of parasocial relationships, and imagining a sexually free world. Learn more about Ericka's work on her website, check out her book Nasty Work and her podcast, Hoodrat to Headwrap. You can read the draft of the training document that Dea... | 1h 00m 47s | ||||||
| 10/1/26 | Accountability | Send us a message What is accountability? In a society where so much harm is minimized and ignored, many of us long to hold others accountable. At the same time, most of us are pretty defensive when people bring up concerns about our behavior, fearing that if we admit mistakes we’ll be rejected, abandoned, or permanently stigmatized. In this episode, Morgan Bassichis returns to talk with Dean about some of the places we can get stuck when we are trying to be right in a conflict, or when... | 24m 53s | ||||||
| 9/16/26 | AMA with Jessica Lanyadoo on Confidentiality, Self Care, and Maintaining Friendships | Send us a message To kick off Season 2, Jessica Lanyadoo is back to answer more listener questions with Dean. In this episode, they respond to questions about confidentiality, self care, and building and maintaining community when friends couple off or make choices that don't align with your values. If you're enjoying Love in a F*cked Up World, check out our Patreon where you can find videos, conversations, and message boards where people are talking about the ideas. We pay for all the ... | 44m 05s | ||||||
| 5/28/26 | prison relationshipssocial isolation+3 | — | Prisons | — | prisonrelationships+3 | — | 52m 29s | ||
| 5/14/26 | gossipcommunication+3 | Morgan Bassichis | — | — | gossipdirect communication+3 | — | 16m 27s | ||
| 4/30/26 | resentmenttoxic relationships+3 | Morgan Bassichis | — | — | resentmenttoxic+3 | — | 24m 46s | ||
| 4/16/26 | trans visibilityfascism+3 | Vicky Osterweil | CLAGS (The Center for LGBTQ Studies at CUNY)In Defense of Looting+1 | — | trans peoplefascism+4 | — | 1h 16m 54s | ||
| 4/2/26 | queer identitydisability+4 | Eli Clare | Unfurl | — | queerdisabled+5 | — | 57m 57s | ||
| 3/19/26 | anti-militarismtransformative justice+3 | Benji Hart | Dissenters | — | Benji HartDean Spade+5 | — | 55m 50s | ||
| 3/5/26 | self-improvementshame+3 | Morgan Bassichis | — | — | self-improvementshame+3 | — | 33m 38s | ||
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| 2/19/26 | policingcriminalization+4 | Andrea Ritchie | Interrupting CriminalizationPracticing New Worlds+2 | — | policingcriminalization+4 | — | 1h 04m 34s | ||
| 2/5/26 | astrologyfeminism+3 | Chani Nicholas | You Were Born for ThisAstrology of the Week Ahead+1 | — | Chani Nicholasastrology+5 | — | 1h 00m 40s | ||
| 1/29/26 | friendshipsocial change+3 | adrienne maree brown | — | — | friendshipsocial change+3 | — | 54m 40s | ||
| 1/22/26 | Peter Gelderloos | Send us a message Dean speaks (in person!) with Peter Gelderloos, whose work has profoundly shaped Dean’s political development since he first encountered How Nonviolence Protects the State in the early 2000s. Together, they discuss revolutionary tactics, the criminalization of resistance, and how to challenge dominant narratives of pacifism. Peter also describes an “ecosystem of revolt” and shares an image that helped Dean conceptualize the new introduction to the recently released second ed... | 1h 03m 06s | ||||||
| 1/8/26 | Holly Whitaker | Send us a message Dean sits down with Holly Whitaker, author of Quit Like a Woman and host of the Co-Regulation podcast to talk about Holly’s critical feminist analysis of how the alcohol industry and the ubiquity of 12-step impact how we perceive drinking and sobriety. We recommend pairing this episode with our previous episode with Shira Hassan, as well as the bonus interview with Shira that you can find for free on Patreon. Shira is the author of Saving Our Own Lives: A Liberatory Pr... | 54m 45s | ||||||
| 12/24/25 | Giving and Receiving Feedback | Send us a message In societies where we throw people away regularly, where carcerality is woven into the emotional fabric of all of our psyches and relationships, it can be VERY hard to give and receive direct feedback. Often we don’t tell people when they hurt us and then we blow up at them or ghost after saving up a pile of hurts. Or we build resentments that are toxic for us and for relationships or groups. And most of us are very defensive when people offer feedback because we’re afraid o... | 19m 25s | ||||||
| 12/10/25 | Shira Hassan | Send us a message Shira Hassan brings her brilliance and decades of experience in harm reduction, transformative justice, and self-help to this deep-dive conversation. With thoughtful questions for Dean about Love in a F*cked Up World, she opens a nuanced exploration of the relationship between dissociation and numbness, rebellious awareness and radical acceptance, the role of softness in the midst of hard work, and setting boundaries as an abolitionist and harm reductionist. Join us on Patre... | 52m 32s | ||||||
| 11/26/25 | 7 Steps for De-escalating a Crush | Send us a message Crushes can be fun and enlivening, but sometimes they are ill-timed or ill-suited, and it can be hard to shake them off. Morgan Bassichis is back to discuss one of the most popular tools from Dean's book Love in a F*cked Up World: 7 Steps for De-escalating a Crush. This tool can help you to turn down the intensity of the interest or obsession when you're feeling crushed out. Support this podcast by joining the Love in a F*cked Up World community on Patreon for conversations ... | 18m 47s | ||||||
| 11/12/25 | AMA with Jessica Lanyadoo (Part 2) | Send us a message Jessica Lanyadoo is back with Dean for part two of this AMA, where they tackle more listener questions. They dive into everything from negotiating relationship terms — like how to open a relationship, set boundaries, and talk about safer sex — to conversations about porn, casual sex, gender envy, and parasocial relationships. Listen to Part 1 of this episode on Apple here, Spotify here, or Dean's website here. Support this podcast by joining the Love in a F*cked Up World com... | 1h 01m 15s | ||||||
| 11/5/25 | AMA with Jessica Lanyadoo (Part 1) | Send us a message Jessica Lanyadoo joins Dean for the first AMA episode of Love in a F*cked Up World. Jessica and Dean answer listener questions about how to navigate our relationships with friends in the context of these terrifying times, how to deal with differing awareness and practices around COVID in our community spaces, and how to negotiate and reckon with differences in class and access to resources in organizing. We got so many great questions from listeners that we’ll be releasing t... | 52m 15s | ||||||
| 10/22/25 | Kelly Hayes | Send us a message Kelly Hayes joins Dean Spade to talk about the relational work of movement building. In a critical moment in Chicago, Kelly and Dean talk about how to establish the trust needed to take the kinds of risks necessary to fight ICE and fascist invasion. They also talk about AI and journalism, and Kelly tells Dean how when confronting fascism, "The truth is a front of struggle." Support this podcast by joining the Love in a F*cked Up World community on Patreon for conversat... | 56m 07s | ||||||
| 10/15/25 | Weyam Ghadbian | Send us a message Weyam Ghadbian joins Dean Spade to talk about Dean's tool 7 Steps for Deescalating a Crush, how Weyam encouraged Dean to discuss the transformative power of love, when attachment theory is useful, and when it's ok to give self help books as gifts. Support this podcast by joining the Love in a F*cked Up World community on Patreon for conversations about the themes in the podcast, tickets to online events, and to submit questions for upcoming Ask Me Anything episodes. Check ou... | 57m 06s | ||||||
| 10/6/25 | How to Survive the End of the World: Be My Senpai | Send us a message Dean is excited to share an episode of one of his favorite podcasts, How to Survive the End of the World, hosted by Autumn Brown and adrienne maree brown. In this episode, "Be My Senpai" the sisters answer a listener question about how to interface with critical feedback and even trolling. They dive into the the importance of belonging and the ways they establish safety and boundaries in their lives, how self-protection is crucial in maintaining mental health, and how compet... | 1h 24m 59s | ||||||
| 9/29/25 | Should I Stay or Should I Go? | Send us a message How can you tell when it's time to leave a relationship with a person, project, job, or group? How can you tell if you have a tendency to walk away too fast or to stay too long in relationships? Morgan Bassichis is back to go deep into these questions with Dean, including talking about how to know when to keep trying to convince people of your perspective and when to move on. Dean and Morgan recorded this episode together (in the same room!) and you can watch the video... | 30m 07s | ||||||
| 9/10/25 | Prentis Hemphill | Send us a message Prentis Hemphill joins Dean Spade in this episode to talk about love, organizing, and healing. They talk about projection, practice, and their approaches to writing books in the self help genre. Check out Prentis's book, What it Takes to Heal, and podcast, Becoming the People. This episode is available in video format on YouTube. Support this podcast by joining the Love in a F*cked Up World community on Patreon for conversations about the themes in the podcast, tickets... | 1h 01m 44s | ||||||
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Chart history for Love in a F*cked Up World
Peaked at #84 in PT, currently #84 in PT.
| Market | Genre | Peak | Current | Trend |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| PT | — | #84 | #84 | — |
| Canada | — | #91 | #91 | — |
| United States | — | #108 | #108 | — |
| South Korea | — | #114 | #114 | — |
| SG | — | #134 | #134 | — |
| Norway | — | #140 | #140 | — |
| Finland | — | #151 | #151 | — |
| Denmark | — | #157 | #157 | — |
| HU | — | #175 | #175 | — |
| PL | — | #177 | #177 | — |
| Ireland | — | #179 | #179 | — |
| GR | — | #179 | #179 | — |
| Germany | — | #197 | #197 | — |
Chart Positions
13 placements across 13 markets.
Chart Positions
13 placements across 13 markets.