This Changes How You See Avoidantly Attached People ft. Dr. Amir Levine
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May 6, 2026 · 58 min
About this episode
Shan interviews Dr. Amir Levine about attachment styles and their flexibility in relationships.
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People in this episode
Host: Shan
Guest: Dr. Amir Levine
Topics covered
- attachment theory
- avoidant attachment
- relationships
- modern dating
- communication
- intimacy
Keywords
- attachment style
- avoidant attachment
- anxious attachment
- secure attachment
- relationship tools
- modern intimacy
- communication
Sponsors
Arya
Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: Beducated, MasterClass
Books & works: Secure
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