Anger Isn’t the Problem - Learning to Respond Instead of React in Marriage | Guest Dr. Gary Chapman
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Julie B. interviews Dr. Gary J. Oliver about understanding and managing anger in marriage.
In this powerful and eye-opening episode of Marriage on the Daily , Julie sits down with clinical psychologist and author Dr. Gary J. Oliver to tackle a topic many couples avoid—but desperately need to understand: anger. With over 30 years of experience, Dr. Oliver brings both biblical insight and practical wisdom to the conversation, helping us reframe what anger really is—and what it isn’t. As he explains, anger itself isn’t the problem. It’s what we do with it that can either damage or deepen our relationships. Together, Julie and Gary unpack: Why anger is always a secondary emotion (and what’s really underneath it) The three core drivers of anger: hurt, frustration, and fear The critical difference between reacting and responding How unmanaged anger quietly destroys connection—and how healthy anger can actually build intimacy Practical steps to recognize your triggers and take responsibility for your responses You’ll also hear why phrases like “help me understand” can transform conflict, and how just one person choosing to respond differently can begin to change the entire dynamic of a marriage. If you’ve ever struggled with anger—or been on the receiving end of it—this…
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