The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Couples | Guest: Shaunti Feldhahn

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Julie B. interviews Shaunti Feldhahn about the habits of highly happy couples based on her research.

What does it actually take to have a truly happy marriage? In this episode of Marriage on the Daily , Julie B sits down with bestselling author, researcher, and speaker Shaunti Feldhahn to explore the findings behind her book The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Couples . Drawing from years of interviews and national survey data, Shaunti reveals what the happiest couples are actually doing differently. Rather than focusing on what breaks marriages apart, Shaunti’s research looks at couples who describe themselves as highly happy and uncovers the small daily habits that set them apart. From choosing to believe the best about your spouse’s intentions to learning how to redirect your thoughts and emotions during conflict, these simple mindset shifts can dramatically change the tone of a relationship. Julie and Shaunti also discuss why keeping score of the good matters more than keeping score of the bad, how the way we speak to our spouse can either build them up or tear them down, and why spending simple time together is one of the strongest predictors of marital friendship and happiness. This conversation is filled with practical encouragement and research-backed insights for…

People in this episode

Host: Julie B.

Guest: Shaunti Feldhahn

Topics covered

• happy marriage
• couples research
• mindset shifts
• relationship habits
• marital friendship

Keywords

• happy couples
• marriage advice
• relationship tips
• conflict resolution
• daily habits

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Couples

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