Needing to Be Right: Just Because You Think You're Right, Doesn’t Mean You Get to Prove It!
About this episode
This episode explores the detrimental effects of needing to be right in marriage and offers strategies to foster connection instead.
In this episode of Marriage 101, we’re unpacking Losing Strategy #3: Needing to Be Right. We’ve all been there — that looping argument where both people are convinced they’re right and neither will back down. Today we explore why the deep human need to be right can quietly destroy connection in marriage, even when we think we’re just “telling the truth.” We dive into: Why our brains are wired to need to be right (confirmation bias explained) How none of us have a “God camera” — our memories and perceptions are subjective, not objective The real-life cost of always needing to prove your point Sneaky ways this strategy shows up (collecting allies, acting morally superior, using “experts,” etc.) Why even when your intentions are good, fighting to be right pushes your partner away Robert and I share two practical rules we use in our own relationship to break the “who’s right” cycle, plus real-world examples of how this pattern plays out in everyday moments. Reflection Questions: When was the last time I was in a conversation with someone who needed to be right, and what was that like for me? When have I felt justified in proving that I was right? What might my best self do…
People in this episode
Hosts: Sharla Snow, Robert Snow
Topics covered
- communication
- marriage
- conflict resolution
- self-awareness
- relationship dynamics
Keywords
- needing to be right
- confirmation bias
- marriage communication
- relationship advice
- conflict in marriage
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