About this episode

The episode discusses how parental behaviors contribute to children's bullying and control issues.

When I stopped trying to fix or change my child, and explored my own role in fostering bullying behaviors, I found the answers I needed. These behaviors were a direct consequence of my own insecurities. - Sean Grover, Ph.D. Summary Parents often make excuses for their children's outrageous behavior, whether it's a preschooler's tantrum or a teen's sullen refusal to do what he or she has been asked. Children who become unmanageable or verbally abusive to their parents are, in fact, bullies, although most parents don't think of these behaviors in that way. Maybe they should. Key Takeaways Kids aren't the problem—unchecked patterns are. When disrespect or control shows up in a child, it often points back to gaps in parental boundaries, consistency, or self-awareness. Testing limits is normal. Running the house is not. Kids are supposed to push boundaries, but they also need parents who confidently hold them. That's what makes them feel secure. Your parenting is shaped by your past. How you were raised affects how you handle conflict, discipline, and respect. If you don't examine it, you'll repeat it. Inconsistency creates escalation. When parents give in, avoid, or explode, kids…

People in this episode

Hosts: Mike Hernon, Alicia Hernon

Topics covered

• parenting
• child behavior
• family dynamics
• self-awareness
• discipline

Keywords

• parenting
• bullying behaviors
• self-control
• discipline
• family dynamics

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