About this episode

The episode discusses how couples can reconnect after experiencing distance and indifference in their marriage.

Summary Have you ever felt distant from your spouse, like you're simply coexisting in the same house or experiencing dryness in your marriage? Every marriage goes through natural cycles of romance and disillusionment, but without intentional actions, indifference can creep in. How do you break out of that indifference and reconnect? In this re-release of Episode 089, we give simple and practical advice for couples to escape indifference and rebuild a happy, healthy marriage. Key Takeaways Love is a decision, not a feeling. When we recommit ourselves to our relationship things can start to improve. "In losing your life, you will save it" - Give yourself away. You can't control your spouse, but you can take action and start to love unconditionally. Pursue your spouse through affirmation, physical love, and by praying for them. Do it now - immediately. Delaying only makes things worse. The sooner you can reorient yourselves towards each other, the easier it wll be. Couple Discussion Questions How much quality time do we actually spend together each week? Do we talk mostly about logistics, or do we share our hearts? What types of affection make each of us feel most connected? What…

People in this episode

Hosts: Mike Hernon, Alicia Hernon

Topics covered

• marriage
• romance
• disillusionment
• reconnection
• affection

Keywords

• marriage advice
• reconnection
• indifference
• affection
• prayer

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: MFP Episode 015: Five Love Languages, MFP Episode 054: Vulnerability in Marriage, MFP Blog: Disillusionment: What to do and how to fight it

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