
Living with Fewer Filters
From Mind the Gap by Michael Comyn
February 7, 2026 · 9 min · Season 4 · Episode 4
About this episode
This episode explores the concept of living with fewer social filters and the impact of non-standard communication on authenticity and self-expression.
Here’s the thing. Most of us spend our lives editing ourselves in real time. Softening opinions. Swallowing reactions. Running everything through an internal risk assessment before it ever reaches our mouth. And then, occasionally, we meet someone who doesn’t do that. This episode was sparked by conversations with people on the autism spectrum, and by watching The Assembly . What struck me wasn’t shock value or bluntness for its own sake. It was the relief. The calm. The honesty of hearing what someone actually thinks, without the usual social varnish. So this isn’t an argument for saying everything that pops into your head. That’s not wisdom, that’s impulse. What this really explores is something subtler. Which filters serve kindness? Which filters serve fear? Which filters are about protecting a persona? And which filters help us stay aligned with who we actually are? We talk about non-standard communication, what it teaches us about clarity and presence, and why “social polish” can sometimes drift into quiet self-betrayal. We also look at the cost of constant self-monitoring, the exhaustion of performing, and the freedom that comes from choosing fewer, better filters rather…
People in this episode
Host: Michael Comyn
Topics covered
- self-expression
- autism
- communication
- self-monitoring
- authenticity
Keywords
- filters
- authenticity
- self-monitoring
- communication
- autism
Mentioned in this episode
Books & works: The Assembly
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