Why Smart, Loving Parents Still Lose It (And What That Tells Us) - Cassidy Freitas

About this episode

The episode discusses the reasons behind parenting reactivity and how to move from shame to self-trust.

Mom Needs a Moment: Moving From Parenting Reactivity to Self-Trust with Dr. Cassidy Freitas Why do the parents who care the most often feel the most shame when they lose their temper? In this episode, Hunter talks with licensed marriage and family therapist and author Dr. Cassidy Freitas about the deeply human moments of parenting—when we react in ways we wish we hadn’t, and the shame that can follow. Dr. Cassidy explains what’s actually happening in the nervous system right before we snap, why knowing the “right” parenting tools doesn’t always mean we can access them in stressful moments, and how understanding reactivity as nervous system wisdom can help parents move from shame toward self-trust. You’ll also learn how slowing down and creating space—or “margins”—in your life can help regulate emotions, break reactive cycles, and strengthen connection with your kids. If you’ve ever thought, “I know better… so why did I react like that?” this conversation will help you understand yourself with more compassion. In This Episode You’ll Learn Why parents who care deeply often experience the most shame after losing it What’s happening in the nervous system just before parenting…

People in this episode

Host: Hunter Clarke-Fields

Guest: Dr. Cassidy Freitas

Topics covered

• parenting reactivity
• nervous system
• self-trust
• emotional regulation
• shame in parenting
• parenting tools

Keywords

• parenting
• emotions
• reactivity
• self-trust
• nervous system
• shame
• parenting tools

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Mom Needs a Moment, licensed marriage and family therapist

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