About this episode

Carla Lalli discusses how her divorce led her to reconnect with her passion for cooking and the emotional significance of food in her life.

Carla Lalli is well known as a chef and a cookbook author. But after many years in food media, working at places like Bon Appétit, she started to lose her personal connection to cooking. It wasn’t until her 24-year-long marriage ended and she had to start cooking for herself as a newly single person, that she re-engaged with why she loved to cook and what made her feel good. She details many of these discoveries and recipes in her new memoir-meets-cookbook, “Food Is a Feeling.” On this episode of “Modern Love,” Lalli tells the host Anna Martin about the specific meals and experiences that helped her reconnect with her pleasure and cravings at this pivotal time in her life. And she talks about the value of cooking as a tool for transforming a really bad day.

People in this episode

Host: Anna Martin

Guest: Carla Lalli

Topics covered

• cooking
• divorce
• personal growth
• memoir
• food media
• self-discovery

Keywords

• divorce
• cooking
• memoir
• self-care
• food
• personal connection
• recipes

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Bon Appétit, The New York Times

Books & works: Food Is a Feeling

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